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I don’t know about you, but I am not a fan of my dirty laundry being aired out to dry. Needless to say, when I am in a fight with my girlfriend, I don’t want everyone we know, or whom we are “friends” with on Facebook, to know about every detail of the fight. The truth in relationships is that sometimes he is right and sometimes she is right but when we start talking about it through social media, all that is seen is that person’s side of the story.

Back in July twitterwood saw Lindsay Lohan rant about her relationship with @samantharonson, and continue with this tweet and then she was over it 10 minutes later. Obviously in the case of celebrities things are exaggerated, but anything you put on the net can be expected to stay there forever, as we see with these… they’re still live. If you actually care about this drama, I’m sure this might sway how you feel about their relationship.

Picture this: John’s girlfriend Caroline writes on Facebook:  “Caroline is mad at John for those horrible things he said to her this morning”. Within minutes, Caroline’s friend Jenny writes, “OMFG John is such a jerk. Hunny I’m here for you call me if you need to talk or a place to stay tonight”… Well you get the picture. It is quite possible that John is not even at fault, and within hours Caroline will realize this and they will mend things and be fine. However, the stigma still stands with John. Jenny still remembers all the times John has been a jerk to Caroline and slowly starts to loose respect.

Its bad enough that significant others bad-mouth each other and talk about fights behind their backs with their friends, but bringing it to social media takes it to a whole other level. Ever wonder why your friend keeps asking you why you are still with him/her?

We all know that we shouldn’t put things on the Internet that we wouldn’t want to be known publicly. There are reasons for that. One great reason: Employers screen new hires on the Internet. I know, because my web consulting company has been hired to perform screening in the past. If an employer sees you bad-mouthing your boyfriend all the time, one could infer that you would bad-mouth your employer if something went bad. Loads of reasons why bringing your personal relationship problems online is just a horrible idea. I am a big proponent of utilizing social media, but I think this is probably one of the worst uses of it that I can think of.

What do you think? Is social media a place for relationship and personal troubles? Let us know!